Back in high school… or even earlier? Was there one “crush” who you still remember fondly?
I definitely had a guy who I was in “luv” with! We lived in the same neighborhood, went to the same church, hung out in the same youth group. He was two years older than I was, so the height of my crush was probably tenth grade. We never ever dated, but we were definitely “buds”.
My sister had a crush on him too… and later in life, we kidded each other that if anything happened to our hubbies, this guy would be out “fall back” man. Ha! Of course, we never told him.
I was horrified when he started dating a girl pretty seriously during his senior year. He and I were very good friends, but I didn’t think she was good enough for him. 🙂
For years we kept in touch at least via a Christmas card, but then he moved from our hometown and I lost touch with him. Recently, I “found” him on Facebook. It’s fun to reminisce about old times. (And news flash – he’s never married!)
My January 2009 book is a friends-turned-lovers story. The heroine was friends with the guy for years, but noe she wants more. And she decides to send him a series of erotic valentines to “woo” him. But she ends up competing with her secret alter ego for his affections.
The story has lots of heat and humor, and Ethan is a yummy hero.
So tell me, ladies – did you have a secret or not so secret crush… one that was never going to go anywhere? Spill all the details! I’ll draw a name at 9PM Eastern on Wednesday to give away an ARC (Advance Reading Copy) of Hot Mail.
Janice Maynard 🙂
Vamps and Scamps 
I had a huge crush on a guy in high school. I’m pretty sure he knew as I wasn’t shy about it! We were great friends and he acted like my big brother chasing off the boyfriends that “weren’t good enough.” Our moms were good friends and always hoped that we would date. He’s married now with a family, but I haven’t seen him in over 16 years! Wow, where has the time gone!
yup, there was a guy in senior high who knew i had a crush on him – i was always finding reasons to talk to him… but it was all one-sided! it got worse when my gal friend and him got together and left me in the dark until all of a sudden i saw them together at a get-together – it was very hurtful. it didn’t last for them, but then neither did my friendship with the girl: i just never felt comfortable/trusting around her again. sigh…
I had a huge crush on my best friend, but I never told him about it. He saw me as his buddy with whom he could talk about everything no matter what. Sometimes I wish I would have been brave enough to tell him about my feelings.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who had a crushed on my best friend. Can’t wait to read this book.
I had several crushes in high school. I was that girl who just never quite was part of the “hip” crowd. Smart but not in.
This topic always reminds me of that song by Garth Brooks, Unanswered Prayers. I dated a guy from the time I was 14 until 17, and at that point I realized I was missing out on a lot of fun with my friends. He was 4 years older, and for the first 2 years or so, we had to sneak around to see each other because I was so young. He’s married now to one of my best friends from high school and until recently they attended the same church we go to. He and his wife are both great people and I’m very happy for them, but still I’m grateful for Unanswered Prayers because I’ve got Eddie and my kids and couldn’t be happier.
After high school, me and my best friend kept in touch. He would call me about every 3 months. He went into the army and we stayed in touch by writing letters and phone calls. We talked to each other for a couple of months after he was released from the army, but we didn’t stay in touch. And yes, I did have a crush on him.
I had a huge thing for a close friend. I think he knew but was in a relationship at the time. By the time he was free I had been his friend for so long ( and knew his dating track record) that I didn’t want to pursue it. The funny thing is I am still acquainted with this guy… I even went to his wedding ( to a totally unsuitable girl). Okay enough said on my part….:)
I dated a boy my sophomore year that I was head over heels in love with, or so I thought. We dated for several months and he broke up with me because I wouldn’t have sex with him. I was absolutely crushed and wasted months of my young life pining over him. Years later I learned that he had two other girlfriends from different high schools in the area at the same time he was seeing me – he was a three-timer, the little bastard. No worries though, because if I was with him I would never have met my wonderful hubby or had my beautiful girls!
I had a huge crush on my bff’s boyfriend through most of high school. We actually hung out more than they did and I was the one he called when things were bad a home. It still amazes me that she never caught on that we had actually become best friends right under her nose. Of course, nothing ever happened, but it didn’t stop me from dreaming about him.
Ironically he married my sil’s cousin. I don’t really talk to him much now, but I don’t know if I could have gotten through high school without him.
Jimmy Sullivan. Tall, long curly brown hair, deep grey eyes, bad boy smile, big guy with an even bigger intellect. All that Irish charm and angst.
I was almost 15, he was just 17; I was a freshman and he was a junior. I was at a house party (yeah, parents away, my buddy’s older sister invited her friends over for beer and “pitch” and let her younger brother invite some of us). Bitter cold with a ton of snow as only Northern New York State can be. He was sitting at the kitchen table playing cards with all the “cool” guys and I brushed against him as I was headed for the fridge. His arm snaked out, wrapped around my waist and there I was sitting on his lap! I couldn’t breathe. He kept a firm grip on me with one arm, cards in the other hand, me handing his beer to him or playing his crds for him, him whispering outrageous comments about everyone in my ear. I had to go to the bathroom but I don’t think I moved for over an hour! I fell head over heels in love with him that night. He kissed me when I had to leave and I have to say that he still ranks as the best kisser! It was an ill-fated, star-crossed love affair, never consummated, although he DID try, but I was too young and too scared (the nuns had done a really good job on me!). He made me stop reading “Dear Abby” and start reading the NY Times so we could “talk” about the real world. It was 1968 and he changed my life. The last I heard he was living in Colorado….
I don’ t know that I’ve ever had a *secret* crush… but I do think about my high school sweetheart from time to time. First loves are so amazingly tender and sweet.
I had several crushes in school, but they weren’t that deep because I didn’t really know them. They weren’t friends and I never got a chance to talk to them except to say hi or bye.
I had many secret crushes in high school. One time I made the mistake of revealing my crush to the guy, who was pretty stunned because I’m pretty sure he didn’t know who the heck I was. I was so embarrassed. Sigh, high school hijinks.
This has been SO much fun! I love getting glimpses into everyone’s past! 🙂
I’ll keep reading and post a winner Wednesday evening!
Janice
yes many. did have a sercet BF in elementary, love at first site. he was so cute
I had a secret crush on a friend in college that never went any where. He never say me more than a friend.
Oh my yes!
I was not yet twelve and developed a HUGE crush on my sensei (had just started training traditional japanese Karate). He was eleven years older, but for the five plus years I trained with him, I sighed wistfully after him. *chuckle* It was cloyingly sweet, actually.
Three decades later, I still remember him fondly, and wish him the best.
Oh what a fun post! My secret crush…or so I thought in my young mind…was on one of my uncle’s friends. My uncle is only about nine years older than I am and I have always loved spending time with him and he was always a very good sport about letting me tag along. Every summer, I would go back to visit my grandparents…basically the whole family with the exception of my folks…and we would spend that time just hanging out and doing all the things they do in the summer…like going to watch my uncle play softball. All the guys on the team were really nice to me which of course I found to be so cool…but his one friend in particular was my favorite and I would spend my summers spinning these ridiculous scenarios in my mind. Of course, I always knew that he kind knew about this crush I had on him, but this point was only made to clear when this friend told my Mom that he sure missed when I visited because of all the attention that he received and my sister thought he was pretty great too.
I still look back on those times very fondly and still have a picture that we took together one summer.
I have had so many crushes! I was (and still am really) always really shy around guys, so I found it much easier to day dream about them and crush on them from afar.
The one I remember most happened in 8th grade. Josh was a total ladies man. He had a new girlfriend every couple of weeks, though I was never one of them! Even when he changed schools for high school, I never could quite get him out of my mind. I ended up asking him to go to my senior prom with me in a wild & crazy moment (thanks to the urging of my friends), but it didn’t work out since he (of course!) had a girlfriend.
I still have fond memories of him and have tried contacting him a couple of times through classmates.com, but he never responded. Oh well! I do know he’s married because his sister is close friends with the daughter of my parents’ neighbors (convoluted, yes I know).
Maybe one day I’ll get a chance to see how life has treated him and meet his wife 🙂
Thanks to all of you for sharing your “secret” romantic pasts! Ah, to be so young again. This has been lots of fun. I’l post a winner in a bit. 🙂
Janice
Drum roll please! And the winner is – Lisa Freeman! I think I have your addy in my database, but how about sending it to JESM13@aol.com just in case. I’ll pop your ARC in the mail ASAP.
Thanks, everybody, for sharing your great stories!
Janice M. 🙂
wtg lisa
Congrats Lisa!!
I had several crushes throughout gradeschool, none in highschool because once I found out they were either taken or too arrogant for me, my crush never fully bloomed and a couple co-workers over the years I worked as a secretary…haha. But the one I had a crush on for what seemed like forever started in the second grade when I attended parochial school and continued on until I moved away to another state after I married my hubby.
I remember going to his house right after school one day when I was in the third grade and played checkers with him, which led to my getting grounded because I never asked my mother if I could go and was never allowed to go to his house again…hehehe. But I could never bring myself to tell him how I felt about him…it was sort of like two ships passing in the night. When my parents could no longer afford for me to go to parochial school, I was crushed because I’d never get to see my secret crush on a daily basis anymore and only when we’d bump into each other at the grocery, which was very rare.
We’d lost our two front teeth at the same time and he would sneek to hold my hand whenever we had to go to Mass during the day at school. Still, I could never let him know I really liked him enough to ask him to be my boyfriend, nor did he ask me to be his girlfriend…hahaha. As the years went by and we grew apart, I continuously thought of him. And whenever we bumped into one another, he never failed to give me goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach. It’s whenever he would say hello to me that I became speechless or babbled words out that you couldn’t make heads or tails of, when usually I talked up a storm.
There was one day when the both of us were married to other people that I got the courage to speak to him first. I just whispered in his ear, “we could have made beautiful babies together, but too bad, so sad that wasn’t what fate held in the cards for us!” That made him laugh, but nothing more…hahaha He was my one and only “long-term” blonde-haired, blue-eyed crush I reminsce about even today. I’m sort of glad he never knew about my crush on him because I have a feeling he would have crushed me if he rejected me and those feelings, so I’m left with a fond memory instead thinking about what could have happened if he really liked me “like that”…haha
Guess I was a bit late, but thought I’d share anyway, if you happen to check this again! hahaaha
Thanks, Janice! I’m looking forward to reading this one!